![]() Your ex is doing this because there is an initial realization of freedom and all the possibilities that exist with it.īut, as the Eagles say in their song, Desperado: ![]() The sooner you leave your ex completely alone (did I say completely?), the sooner they will get past this phase or period and start experiencing the negative consequences of breaking up with you.ĭuring the relief period, you might see pictures on social media of your ex going out with friends and even acting silly. So the relief is less about getting away from you (though there is likely some of that) and more about being glad they got something over with that was difficult, awkward, and painful. It probably hurts some, but it is necessary and in your best interest that your ex goes through this first stage during no contact.īecause you want them to get it out of their system so to speak.īreaking up with you was difficult and they had probably been dreading it for a long time. I know, you don’t want to hear that breaking up with you gave your ex relief. This happens as an emotional reaction or response to loss, grief, and various seasons of realization. Many things in life happen in levels, timelines, stages and cycles. (Also see my article: Stages To Getting Back Together With An Ex) Dumper’s Regret Timeline or Dumpers Grief Cycle These stages could also be called dumper’s regret timeline or dumpers grief cycle. It is during this time that they go through stages of reaction based on the dumper’s experience without you. That is what needs to happen in order for them to realize they don’t want the breakup. While you are not contacting your ex, they are forced and allowed to experience the true consequences of their decision to break up with you. If you start applying the no contact rule after the breakup, you are not only giving yourself the best chance to get your ex back, but you are responding with maturity and dignity. People often think that their ex walks away unscathed after they break up with them.Īs though the leaver flicks a switch at the moment of the breakup and immediately starts having a great life that never includes thoughts of the person they left or doubts about their decision to end the relationship.Īt the moment of this writing I have nearly twenty years in the relationship recovery service and I can tell you that thinking your ex has a simple path after they broke up with you is most likely untrue. Stages Your Ex Goes Through While You Are In No Contact Get your ex back with Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit!
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